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Rant

Posted by eemilla on June 12, 2011

My hormones are at an all time high, and I am angry so I’m hopping on my soapbox.

Freshman NC Representative Tim Moffitt is unfortunately my elected official, and I must say that for a Republican he doesn’t seem very interested in limiting the size of government or simply keeping government more locally controlled.  He has pushed through a bill, HB471, that will make Buncombe County voters elect commissioners from a district rather than elect all five; the same bill increases the number of commissioners from five to seven.  Even the Asheville Citizen Times was against this move, and it was decided unilaterally without any voter consent.

Representative Moffitt would also like the city to cede ownership of the airport and water system to more regional control; the water system bill, HB925, was changed in response to public outcry to simply study whether ownership should change or not.  The airport bill, HB552, has broader support according to Mountain Express, but it doesn’t provide any compensation to the City of Asheville for the airport.

My rant initiated with notice of Mr Moffitt’s vote on HB854, which is innocently entitled, Women’s Right to Know Act.  This act would require a woman seeking an abortion to watch an ultrasound, listen to the heartbeat, and wait 24 hours before being able to obtain an abortion.  She will also be made aware of state support available, but to my knowledge no one has put forward a bill to increase the state’s funding for Medicaid.  It incenses me that Representative Moffitt and the sponsors of this bill would think that a woman would decide to have an abortion on a whim, and if they believe that then why would they expect that she would be capable of properly caring of herself and the baby while pregnant or afterwards.

Everyone wants to see a reduction in abortions, but I don’t want to see it at the expense of a child being brought into a dangerous situation.  Every single child born should be a wanted child; putting up a twenty-four barrier to a difficult decision isn’t going to help have more wanted children, but it could increase the number of children born to unprepared and ill equipped people.  The bill doesn’t provide any leeway for rape or incest victims, which is yet another instance of the system blaming the victim.

I’m sure Senator Tom Apodaca will also support this bill, but I do hope that Governor Purdue will veto it.  Please note this post was partially written with my newborn nestled against me in our super awesome wrap; my pregnancy wasn’t exactly planned, but my daughter is a wanted child.

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Shame on you, Congressman Shuler!

Posted by eemilla on November 11, 2009

Abortion is legal.  The best way to stop abortion is to prevent unwanted pregnancies.  Before Roe v. Wade, well heeled women went out of the country to have their abortions performed, and less well off women went to illicit abortion providers who may or may not have been medically trained.  As a result, women died.  It is infuriating that Congressman Shuler (and the other representatives) would vote to restrict a right that is so intensely personal.  Every child born should be a wanted child.  How many children have you adopted or fostered Mr Shuler?

Congressman Shuler issued a press release stating that HR 3962 doesn’t provide enough reform or control enough costs.  However, if that were the case why bother with voting in favor of the Shupak amendment that would restrict access to abortions for ostensibly less than wealthy women.  Why didn’t Congressman Shuler present anything to the Small Business Committee that would have provided better cost controls or more reforms?  What reforms are Congressman Shuler looking for?

His press release states that he supports “many of the provisions in HR 3962”, but other than cost control he doesn’t specifically state where the bill’s reforms fall short.  On his Small Business page he points that healthcare costs have almost doubled since 2001 and that businesses are facing the decision of whether to pay for health insurance or lay off employees, but his solution on that page is to allow businesses to band together to create coops which would work within the existing system that Shuler says is “laden with waste, fraud and abuse” (from today’s press release).

The Senate is next so pick up your phones and call your Senators daily to remind them how you feel about our healthcare system.  I’ll be reminding mine that unlike them I don’t have free healthcare.  I don’t get to choose my doctor because my health insurance company does that for me.  For my annual physical, I have to schedule my appointment about six months out, and then I should expect to wait one, two, or more hours to be seen by the doctor.  Due to the huge price difference between the group and individual market, my employer choses my health plan.  If I were on the individual market, my only real option for health insurance company would be Blue Cross Blue Shield of NC; although they are not considered a monopoly BCBSNC collected over 96% of individual health insurance premiums in North Carolina in 2008.  I’ll also be sure to mention the millions of uninsured (like our friends who work forty plus hours every week, but still cannot afford health insurance) that the private market has failed.  I’ll voice my support for moving away from the fee for service paradigm and moving towards the rewarding healing the sick one; I’ll also share my dream of taxing the hell out of those prescription drug ads that harass me constantly to ask my doctor to please give me a prescription which might help the selectively fiscally conservative get on the bus.

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I hate hospitals

Posted by eemilla on April 25, 2009

Earlier this week my husband received a call from his step-father that his mother was in the hospital on a ventilator.  For the past several years she struggled with Guillain-Barre Syndrome, and on Thursday morning she took her last breath.  It seems so strange to think that she will never make another smart ass comment with her dry sense of humor, or open her arms to hug my neck (or tell my husband to hug my neck for her as her normal phone ending).  She was a strong willed and highly opinionated woman, and when her symptoms first arose a year or so before our wedding she promised she would be there with us in Key West and would be walking.  She did just that, and it really seemed that she had kicked its ass.  However, it wasn’t finished (nor is there a cure) so we leave again to attend her funeral and say good bye for now.  Barbara, I’m sorry that you didn’t get to hold any grandchildren, and I hate that I won’t be able to enlist your painting skills on our next round of home improvement.  

I cannot stress enough the importance of a living will or an advance medical directive.  Barbara was about ten years from retirement age, and shit happens indiscriminate of age.  It is heart-wrenching to see someone on life support; with all the stress everyone is under in these situations it just make sense to have the patient make the decision for how they want to treated ahead of time.

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NC House Bill 88 (aka Senate 221, 2009 Healthy Youth Act )

Posted by eemilla on February 21, 2009

2009 Healthy Youth Act plans to change North Carolina’s sex-ed from abstinence only to an abstinence based comprehensive curriculum.  This is great news, and it needs vocal support against the usual suspects.  I fully support this change, but I wish there were some mention of masturbation as another option; what else kills the two birds of relieving sexual energy and providing 100% protection against pregnancy or disease?  Masturbation is the only middle road between partnered sex outside of a faithfully monogamous relationship and no sex.  I don’t necessarily envision instructors demonstrating techniques, but masturbation isn’t a dirty word or act.  Dr. Jocelyn Elders was ahead of her time fifteen years ago.  However, I suspect we will have to wait another fifteen or more years before masturbation can come out of the closet.  I didn’t catch this on my first reading, but this morning I had to laugh at: “a mutually faithful monogamous heterosexual relationship in the context of marriage is the best lifelong means of avoiding sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV/AIDS”; I guess not all mutually faithful monogamous relationships are safe.  Below is the email I sent to the House’s primary sponsors with my other state elected officials carbon copied.  Surprisingly I didn’t receive a reply.

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I am Pro Quality of Life

Posted by eemilla on September 7, 2008

Kudos to The Daily Show for their coverage of the Palin hypocrisy.  Not only did John Stewart juxtapose some of the nasty, sexist commentary while Senator Clinton was running against the cries of sexism by the “liberal media” in defense of Governor Palin from the  very same people who attacked Senator Clinton, but Samantha Bee tried in vain to get Republican delegates to say the word choice in light of Governor Palin’s unwed pregnant teenage daughter.  

Under most circumstances I would defend Governor Palin’s argument that her daughter’s pregnancy is a private family matter; however, in this instance her public policy is to take the choice to have a child away from the family.  Additionally, she doesn’t want to allow comprehensive sexual education, which could have prevented this pregnancy.  If it is right for her family then how can she deny my choice for my family?

It is finally time that the Democratic party is opening the up the choice plank to put the emphasis on the prevention of unwanted pregnancies rather than it just being about abortion.  I understand that the option to abort is important, but preventing the pregnancy is the best option.  I cannot understand how the pro-choice lobby have allowed themselves to be painted as pro-abortion or anti-life.  I personally cannot say that I would have an abortion as this time in my life, but I cannot say that this has always been the case.   I have never encountered anyone who thought of abortion as birth control; I think of it as a chance to increase the quality of each life in this world.  I say this because I am the product of a marriage that happened because I was conceived (I must note that my mother would never have considered an abortion because [I believe] she just wanted a family of her own).

As not all families provide the good sound judgement that is required to be a responsible active sexual person, I think that government does have an obligation to do so.  I do not like the thought of government stepping in and picking up the role of the parent, but at the same time for those ignorant, inexperienced people procreating the government will step in as the surrogate parent in the form of welfare (Medicaid, food stamps, subsidized housing and childcare as well as financial aid for the parents and please don’t forget the child tax credit).  Without stretching very far, I can think of five examples of these ignorant procreators getting a free ride (three of which are within my own family).  As this is the case why should taxpayers be denied the right to try to prevent these births in the first place?

Another major argument against comprehensive sexual education is the increase in sexual activity among those receiving the education, but honestly, I had plenty of sex before I was eighteen with my abstinence only education.  I was fortunate enough not to contract any sexually transmitted diseases while playing around with oral sex, but I would say it is a shame that I first learned about using protection when practicing oral sex from a Jamie Foxx movie.

With sex being such a private matter, it is difficult for me to envision it being a part of the public education curriculum, and I cannot dispute that it is an arduous decision to calculate when in the process should sex-ed be introduced.  However, it is reckless to not teach our burgeoning adults safer sex methods, and while at all points it would not have be compulsory at some stage the comprehensive sexual education would have to be requisite.

Hopefully, the change in the Democratic plank regarding pregnancy reflects a new direction for the entire country.  Keep your laws off of my body, and stay out of my bedroom!

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